Tag Archives: inspiration

Where Anne says yes.

29 Sep


I knew I liked that other Sarah over at My San Francisco Budget Wedding, but she cemented my admiration for her when she posted this bit of loveliness over the weekend. Anne forever!


No marble halls for me, either. ūüôā


please celebrate with us!

28 Sep

The sweets and I ordered wedding invitations this past weekend! It’s so real now, right?¬† We ordered from Wedding Paper Divas (a friend who is getting married NEXT WEEKEND — Congrats, Yasmine! — raved about them) and I was really pleased by their reasonable prices and customizable designs. And the Sweets and I had very different points of view about what our invitations should look like, and this design made us both very happy — it’s our wedding!

winter berries wedding invitation

The red berries on the branch are much like the winter berries ideas I had a few months ago, and so I think it will help us to get started with a florist. What do you think — the invite is beautiful next to these flowers, right?

white flowers and winter berries

And of course the branches also tie into the birds — the cardinals I previously called my “singing little details.” It’s all coming together! Just in time for three months from tomorrow!

“to make visible and real your love for each other”

20 Aug

Alright, I admit it. I watch some of the wedding tv shows — Say Yes to the Dress, My Fair Wedding, Four Weddings, Plan My Wedding, and the ancillary¬†shows that might as well be wedding tv, like Cake Boss. Pretty cakes, pretty parties, character, you know. (But NO BRIDEZILLAS. Never again. I find that show horrifying¬†in the most despicable¬†ways. Those women, whether it’s for show or not,¬†are not allowing themselves a true celebration of love, and they are not putting their relationship and love first in their weddings.)

My mother has taken to watching Say Yes to the Dress¬†too, and I must say it amused me to no end when she asked me (after I had bought my dress) whether it was definitely “THE” dress. As I’m sure most of you know, the show espouses this idea that there is one perfect and wonderful dress for every bride,¬†but I’m not sure that’s an idea I completely buy¬†in to. Some of us are never going to find a magical dress that takes away all body insecurities and transforms us into a glowing vision of bridal perfection. But I do believe that I found a dress that is wonderfully in keeping with the wedding I’m planning, and I know, because I’ll be wearing it¬†in front of all my closest friends and family, there to support me,¬†I’ll feel happy and comfortable and “bridal” and my Sweets will think I look beautiful on our wedding day. I said yes to that dress.

Of all these shows, I think Plan My Wedding¬†had the¬†most practical¬†effect on me. Those three competing¬†wedding planners, all with designs to give the bride and groom the best wedding on their limited budget, made me stop and think: wedding planners know a lot of tricks. They have experience, expertise, and best of all, relationships. They are absolutely worth their fee if they get you more wedding (and less stress!) for your budget. Sweets and I were swayed by this thought, and we found some¬†wonderful professionals to help us handle some of the bigger aspects of our wedding, like finding a venue with great food and appropriate space within our budget. And we’re sure we would have¬†had to pay much more for the wedding we’re going to have without their help. Their advice and support is invaluable, too — I’ll give those ladies¬†some more public love down the road, when more plans are in place and I can praise them appropriately.¬†

But the rest of the wedding shows, as much as I enjoy them, don’t always seem like they’re at all related to MY wedding. ¬†For example, David Tutera’s My Fair Wedding, wonderfully intentioned as it seems, takes a bride’s very personal (if slightly misguided)¬†vision for her day and turns it into a six-figure blowout that is unrecognizable to that bride and groom — the dream wedding they never even dreamed to dream, really. And if the title of the show is referencing “My Fair Lady,” then I think that’s further evidence that it’s only breeding more discontent — how can you ever go back to normal life after the day someone swoops in and makes you someone else? As Eliza Doolittle says, “I sold flowers; I didn’t sell myself. Now you’ve made a lady of me, I’m not fit to sell anything else.” (Huh. Not sure that makes my point. Does it make sense?)¬†

Well, even if David could swoop in and help me make my wedding into a huge event, I’m not sure I’d say yes to that, since all of¬†our work and investment, humble as it is, is how Sweets and I are best able and happiest to represent our love and joy to our family and friends. The fact that¬†we made it, that we made every choice together with our¬†life and our loved ones in mind — that’s what our wedding should be. And a glamorous and extravagant wedding is not at all related to our lives.

A moment on My Fair Wedding¬†did make a real impact on me this past week, though. The bride and groom were wonderfully tattooed and morbid-ish people who wanted a Day of the Dead themed wedding, and to have their rings tattooed¬†on their fingers during the ceremony. David talked them out of that, of course, but it did strike me that with tattoos¬†they were putting something on their bodies that signified their love and committment. Somehow, that seems real and wonderful to me. I hope they did it after the wedding, underneath the fancy platinum rings David’s sponsors provided. And then, during their admittedly beautiful wedding ceremony, the tattooed priest uttered the words that are the title of this post, when the couple was ready to take their vows. He said, “you’ve come here today to make visible and real your love for each other.” I don’t know if that’ a typical phrase in vows, but I love it. I stopped and rewound my dvr and listened again so I could write it down, because that’s exactly what a wedding should be, in my mind. And that’s why I believe that weddings should not be cookie-cutter, that they should be personal and related to the couples’ lives and loves, because each wedding, for each couple, is the visible and real expression of their love for each other. I hope our friends and families can see that on December 29th.

And as for my other vows, I vow never to be a contender for Bridezillas. Don’t even mention it to me.(And if you have a problem with that you can stick it where the sun don’t shine!)

gathering more inspiration

2 Jul

I stumbled upon this blog today, and¬†Emily’s wedding¬†invitations are¬†in the same spirit¬†I want mine to be. Only mine will be red. Enjoy this lovely post.

And this real wedding from OnceWed¬†has so many elements that I’ve been envisioning for ours. The red tissue poms, balloons (we love UP and I’ve been hoping to incorporate that romantic story somehow), the fabric (I’m a quilter/crafter and LOVE the Amy Butler red), and I’d LOVE to have a photo booth (we’ll see if it’s in the budget.)

red wedding decor

Photography by Brooke Schwab

grumpy wedding planner girl

29 Jun

I’ve been feeling a little overwhelmed this past week or so, trying to find venues and vendors to create the wedding that the Sweets I want. I’m beginning to think this wedding planning thing is no picnic…

picnic wedding reception

Photography ‚Äď Catie Ronquillo Photography

oh, wait — I mean, no day at the beach

Beach wedding

Photography: Comfort Studio

no, it’s not all fun and games!

scrabble wedding photo

Photo by Jagger Photography

but you can’t have your cake and eat it too!

Thiebaud Wedding Cakes

Photography: Kate Harrison

Shoot. I can’t stay grumpy. I need to keep reminding myself that for every moment of frustration and misery trying to pull together a wedding that will be lovely and wonderful, I’ll have that wedding day, and a lifetime of happiness. Wedding planning may not be all roses (because there are so many other flowers out there!) but all we need is love¬†(and wonderful wedding blogs like the ones featured here).

Thanks, lovely wedding bloggers!

Picnic Wedding: The Sweetest Occasion, Games Wedding: Inspired by This, Beach Wedding: Once Wed, Cakes: Green Wedding Shoes

Unlikely celebrity inspiration

15 Jun

When thinking about what I’ll wear on my wedding day, my latest inspiration is far from obvious. I, a 30-yr-old white girl,¬†am looking at Queen Latifah.¬†I think we have¬†similar body types. And she usually finds a way to look glamorous and sleek in her red carpet attire. I aspire to looks like this today:

pretty, right? and coverage for bra straps!

And also this look, which I think is BETTER on the full-figured woman than on the runway model. I don’t know if I’m interested in strapless, but I guess I’ll have to try!

And Queen tends to wear a lot of one-shoulder dresses lately. What do you think — is this flattering to fuller busts? Is it just a trend, and will I look back on my wedding photos in 20 years and say it was classic and lovely, or will it date me and seem ridiculous by then?

one-shoulder, one-hit wonder?