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Where Anne says yes.

29 Sep


I knew I liked that other Sarah over at My San Francisco Budget Wedding, but she cemented my admiration for her when she posted this bit of loveliness over the weekend. Anne forever!

No marble halls for me, either. ūüôā


bad blogger

10 Sep

I’ve been a bad blogger lately. I hate these posts, where people apologize for neglecting the blog and explain how busy and crazy life has been lately, and promise they’re going to be better in the future. I probably will, too. But I’m annoying myself. Just wanted to register here that I’m not done with this blog, that I’m not done planning, but I haven’t had much urge to document things lately. Most of what is being accomplished right now doesn’t “show” very well, and I’m realizing that when I actually chose things and have plans, I want to keep them close so my wedding will be fresh and lovely and a surprise for my guests.¬† I’m trying to practice avoiding the overshare.

Also, I’m more avoiding all the pretty wedding blogs at the moment because I’m trying to crystallize my own vision, along with my groom’s vision, for our wedding. All the other images kind of cloud things for me.

So, soon I’ll be back with more thoughtfulness and things to document, I’m sure.

Back to school time

31 Aug
Not for me, of course. I’ve been working all summer, but it’s that time of year, and it makes me a little nostalgic. I love school supplies, that feeling of possibility and new experiences that comes with empty notebooks and fresh pencils. And I’ve seen a few wonderful things that remind me of back to school in the blog world this past week. First, there¬†was:¬†
bouguet of pencils

A bouquet of newly sharpened pencils


by Cathe Holden of Just Something I Made  

It reminded me of that line in YOU’VE GOT MAIL, where Tom Hank’s character says to Meg Ryan’s character (in an email, of course), “Don’t you love New York in the fall? It makes me want to¬†buy school supplies. I would send you a bouquet of newly sharpened pencils if I knew your name and address. On the other hand, this not knowing has its charms.”

And then I stumbled across this artist,  Dalton Ghetti, in a post at Urban Bride 

pencil sculpture

carved from a pencil. Really!

See more about him and more amazing photos at Kid Robot.  

¬†Anyway, I hope you all get to have that feeling of possibility that comes with freshly sharpened pencils this fall. I know I’ve got it coming with all the wedding planning that’s unfolding these days!¬†

I’m not shirking work

4 Aug

I read a statistic somewhere that most women do the majority of their wedding planning at work. I’m not going to lie — I’m doing some planning at work. But I think I’m being responsible and fair to my employer.

I’m not a crazy wedding-planner girl yet, not calling all the vendors to make sure they¬†know every last detail of my wishes (I’ve sat next to that girl), and I’m not NOT doing my job (I’ve met her, too), but I’ll admit I take frequent “breaks” to look at twitter or check that favorite blog or search for more ideas about what¬†the heck¬†kind of dress I want to wear, or research that crazy favor idea I had. But work is so important, and I’m dedicated to getting it done. Just so you know.

But the honest truth is I spend more time than I should scouring the internet for wedding stuff.¬† And I’m trying to take care it doesn’t get out of control. Brides, how do you keep balance in your work/planning lives?

Sunday mornings with Sweets

1 Aug

It’s a gorgeous day, the sun is shining, August has come in with cooler temperatures, and we’re lounging on the couch, catching up on the dvr, sipping homemade iced coffee, and enjoying the quiet morning. I’m so glad we have a lifetime of this ahead of us.

kick up your feet

kicking up our feet!

the most beautiful

30 Jul

I recently asked both of my parents (married for nearly thirty-five years!) to gather some memories for me — I wrote to each of them:

“I would really love it if you would write me a letter about your wedding, about all the things you remember loving, the details that meant most to you, and the things that made you crazy about the day. Can you tell me about the ceremony? What were your vows? Whatever you think is memorable to share, I’d love to hear about. I’ve also asked Mom (or Dad)¬†to do the same thing for me, and I’d really love to hear from each of you from your unique perspectives. Will you do this for me? Love, Sarah”

They both are more than happy to write to me about that day in 1976, but they both asked for a few days to reflect. I love that about them — so thoughtful. But what made me cry today was what my Dad said in his first response to the request:

“I need to give some serious thought to your questions regarding the wedding of Carol and Alan. Of course, the first thing I must say is that your mother was the best thing, the most beautiful:¬† what I loved most about our wedding.”

Already, that tells me exactly what I need to know. That Sweets and I need to be celebrating the beauty of our love, first and foremost. The day means nothing more than our love for each other.

My parents were fresh out of college when they were married, nearly ten years younger than Sweets and I will be when we take our vows, so I have ideas that we are in a different place than they were in many ways, but I’m feeling like I need the perspective that they have today on their wedding celebration in order to even begin to plan mine. They’ve inspired me every day and I need them even more now. Love to them both.

your special day (and hers, too)

27 Jul

Chelsea Clinton is getting married this weekend, did you hear? (That’s mostly a joke. If you’re reading my wedding blog, I’m sure you’re reading a lot of wedding blogs, and people can’t stop talking about it!)

There’s been a lot of hullabaloo about where and how and who will be there, and one of the side stories is about the “other bride” who is also getting married that weekend in Rhinebeck, New York, the town where Chelsea’s wedding will likely be. See here: A lot of people are sympathetic to Miss Haddad-Friedman‚Äôs plight — the fear that perhaps the Clinton wedding will ruin her day.

The thing that occurs to me, however, is that nothing will ruin her day. There may be a few hitches and headaches leading up to the moment, but it’s still the day she’ll marry the man she loves. She’ll still have that moment when she says her vows and her man says them back to her, and they’ll remember it forever, and have amazing stories to tell. I hope she’ll soon stop thinking of the day as “hell,” and be able to enjoy.

Perhaps easier said than done, but it’s what I hope for her, for me, and for all brides. Enjoy the wedding! Congratulations! Now you’re married and you have a whole lifetime of days for other people to ruin!